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The Destructive Power of My Words
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This is something I have been thinking about quite a bit.
One of my goals in life is to be as happy as I can be.
I have come to realize that money and stuff do not bring me happiness. I am happy when I am getting along well with others especially my loved ones and those closest to me.
The Better My Relationships are
The Happier I am
That’s where the problem comes in. All too frequently I find that I will say something to a friend or loved one which hurts them. My relationship is damaged. At those times my happiness disappears or drops substantially.
When I was young, I was not physically strong. So when someone picked a fight with me, it didn’t pay for me to fight back. There was no way I was going to win.
So I compensated. I learned the power of words. I learned words that would rip others up emotionally. I excelled at this. When someone attacked me, I got even with them through words.
My Mouth Was My Gun,
My Hammer, My Club
That was the way I responded and it paid off or so I thought.
As an adult I find that I all too frequently retaliate with a harsh cruel statement or critical comment when I believe someone has done something to hurt me. Notice I say here “when I believe.” The other person may not have meant anything by what they said or did. I just did some mind reading and reached the wrong conclusion.
Needless to say I do this with those closest to me. After the poisonous words are out, it takes me quite awhile to restore the trust of the person I have hurt. Our relationship is slowly rebuilt. All the while I am not as happy as I desire to be.
I don’t know how many years ago I heard this:
Engage Brain Before Opening Mouth
This has been the hardest thing for me to learn. I wish that I carried Duck tape on me all of time. Then when I am mind reading, I can automatically seal my mouth right before the venomous words came out.
I have always envied other people who don’t have this problem I have.
Much Success,
Bob Paroski
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