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Held Hostage by Your Past?
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You may have never thought about this. Yet it may be having a profound impact on what you do today. The question is simple.
What Impact Does Your Past Have
On The Way You Live Today?
Everyone has failed at a certain point in their lives. Many have failed over and over again. The strange thing is that people deal with failure in different ways.
Some use failure as a learning experience. They don’t take it personally. They look at what went wrong and what they did or did not do to cause it. They make changes. They also take steps not to let it happen again.
Others view failure as an enormous personal defeat. They get hung up on the failure itself and blow it all out of proportion. Even blame themselves unmercifully even when it was not their fault. The memory of the failure is so painful for them they avoid looking at it closely. They never get to the point where they can see what actually caused the failure. Nor are they able to take steps to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
Those in the first group normally are more open to taking risks. They know that they may fail. However eventually they will succeed.
Those in the second group frequently won’t try new things. They fear failing and don’t want to deal with those awful feelings that come with it. The more frequently these people fail, the less frequently they will try anything new. They get stuck in their own little worlds.
As they age people in the second group set less and less goals for themselves because they fear they will never be able to achieve them. Dreams become a distant past for them.
If they work at jobs they despise, they won’t look for work elsewhere. After all they may end up in a worse job than they have now.
They eventually reach a point
Where Thoughts of Their Failures Consume
Most of Their Time Each Day
They no longer appreciate what is happening right here right now. They no longer allow themselves to have fun. They become more and more cynical.
As you can see this is a truly horrible place to be.
If you are in the first group, I congratulate you for being where you’re at. You are experiencing as much of the present as you can. Most probably you are enjoying what you do each day and the experiences you have.
If you are in the second group, realize
It’s Not Too Late for You to Change
It’s Not Too Late for You to
Really Enjoy Life to the Fullest
Let 2011 be the year
· Where you realize that your prior failures do not mean you are a failure as a person.
· Where you allow yourself to look back at those times when you have failed and see what actually caused them. You will find that some were not your fault. You will also see that some occurred because you did not have adequate knowledge.
· Where you see what you can learn from each failure so that you can avoid making the same mistakes again in the future.
· Where you don’t allow yourself to worry constantly now about the failures in your past.
· Where you allow yourself to live and experience life to the fullest each and every day.
· Where you allow yourself to dream again.
· Where you throw off the chains that have been binding you and create a new you.
You can do this. If you have difficulty looking at the failures in your past on your own, discuss them with a friend. A friend who will be objective and help you really understand what happened and the reasons for it.
Men may have difficulty here. We frequently don’t like to open up, especially to another man. If we have these types of conversations we will be seen as weak. That is the furthest thing from the truth. Remember – Everyone fails. A good male friend will welcome the opportunity to help and to relate how they have dealt with their own failures.
Take the first step today. Give yourself a chance to be happier than you have been in a long time.
Have a great New Year and let me know of your success.
Bob Paroski
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